Lets be honest, everyone feels depressed at some time during their lives. Circumstances and life events can sometimes propel us into this state as if we have little or no control over being there. Here’s the thing, there are times when feeling depressed is appropriate, when you should feel glum or grumpy or angry, sometimes it is completely right that you should be there. It begins to become a problem when you spend too much time there- either because you can’t shake it off and spend prolonged periods feeling bad, or because you are going there easily and regularly- too regularly, even when your circumstances are generally good.

When someone is feeling very depressed you can hear it and see it in them, you might even get a vibe from them that something just isn’t quite right. There are a number of ways of spotting it- The tone of their voice coupled with the language that they are using, typically will be very negative, plus their bodies will look un enthused, tired and sickly (and they will also probably feel that way.)The danger with being in this state is that like anything in life, the more you practice it, the better you get at it, so every time you revisit that emotional state (if you are going there a lot) you can get into it quicker and experience the feeling to a greater intensity. What is happening is that the neural networks within the nervous system that relate to the state of depression, become stronger. If you think of a motorway as an example, the roads are well traveled and strong, so the traffic can move at speed. If the neural network is the motorway and the cars are the information that tell you to feel depressed, you can see how this becomes greatly enforced and fast. If the happy feelings are like an overgrown country lane, you’ll understand that it’s less easy for the traffic to travel down that road, but the more and more the traffic does travel on that path instead, the easier that road becomes to be on. The less frequently you use your depression “motorways” the more overgrown and out of use they become. So this is how you begin to do it:

Firstly, use the wheel of life on the “try it you might like it” page of the People Building Website. Use this to identify which areas of your life are giving you the most trouble. It’s always a good idea to think of your wheel of life as a bicycle wheel- so if it’s not looking very well rounded you can expect to get a bit of a bumpy ride! Then it is time to find yourself a good coach, and preferably someone who can offer you some therapeutic help for the areas of your life that challenge you and to help keep you in a peak state. NLP can be particularly effective for providing you with empowerment, but beware, a good NLP practitioner will not let you blame others for the way you are feeling. The point of feeling empowered is that you start to think about controlling your emotions, instead of having them controlling you. Putting outside influences in charge of the way that you feel doesn’t help you to feel empowered and in control. That’s not to say that they will not listen or be sympathetic, but their job is to help you create some positive changes and help you stay in a better state, not to keep going over all the reasons why you should be feeling bad.

Here are 3 major things to consider when eliminating depression

1) The mind

Where’s you head at? What do you spend most of your time thinking about? day dreaming about? Remembering about? Quality stuff that makes you feel good or bad stuff that- guess what- makes you feel bad.

2) The body

Are you drinking enough water? Are you eating healthy food? Do you get enough sleep? Remember that your body is a lab filled up with chemicals but it doesn’t run on its own, you are responsible for maintaining it’s equilibrium by eating and drinking the right stuff. Your emotions are created by hormones, hormones are chemicals. It makes sense that you should provide the right chemical intake to keep your lab well stocked with good quality chemical.

3) The spirit

Do you do what makes you feel alive? I meet so many depressed people who I ask “Do you love your job?” and most of them reply “No.” You have to do things in your life that make you feel happy in order to be happy. Most of us spend more time at work than we do with the people we love, so it’s really got to be a great job. Think about what hobbies make you feel good and just as importantly, take an evaluation of the people you spend your time with. We become like the people we spend most of our time with, so if you’re around people who are pessimistic or negative, you can expect to have some of that starting to show up in your own personality.

“I h ad tried many other options, including antidepressants for 4 years. I had nothing to lose and an open mind. Gemma made me feel extremely comfortable.”

By Gemma Bailey
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When ADHD, ADD and the such like come into existence, I begin to consider why they wasn’t around when I was at school- or were they? There were disruptive children yes, but perhaps they just didn’t have a label. A label to live up to.

We are all well aware of how society changes over the years, so is bad behaviour in children connected with an increase in single parents families, family breakdowns, classroom sizes and E-Numbers or have we experienced an increase in these behavioural disorders simply because we are more acute with diagnosis and more aware of our children’s feelings?

Perhaps the answer comes with a combination of these suggestions. And perhaps there are times, when medicating a child’s behaviour really is the answer. But the reason you’re here reading this, I suspect, is because you’re interested in finding another way forward that doesn’t involve pumping stimulant chemicals (such as Ritalin) into your already over stimulated child and unnecessarily making changes to their brain chemistry if you can help it. Disruption and bad behaviour can be anything including bad temper, and argumentative attitude, being deliberately annoying, anger and spitefulness. This inevitably has an impact on the child’s relationship with others and their ability to learn successfully in a regular classroom setting.

Surely if we are aware that behavioural problems are caused by chemical brain imbalances, then we should be looking towards altering the child’s biochemistry in the simplest way. Studies have already favoured more Omega 3 in a child’s diet to help improve concentration and attention span. By changing a child’s diet we are changing their chemistry.

Have you ever put a couple of teaspoons of sugar in a can of coke? If you haven’t try it and see what happens! Sometimes things don’t mix well and cause explosions. And it’s the same with children. One time when I was working as a Nursery Nurse a parent came to collect her child. She took the 3 year old into the hall to put on her shoes and I left them to it. A few moments later I could hear screaming and shouting coming from the hall. I went out there to find my little friend making it very difficult for her mummy to put her shoes on her. I simply cleared my throat and the little girl looked up. Then I gave her “the look” and she stopped in her tracks and very, very calmly let her mother put on her shoes. Needless to say her mother was stunned! There was simply a different kind of relationship between the child and her mother to what there was between the child and me. She knew exactly how to “push her mummy’s buttons” but knew it wasn’t even worth trying it on with me. If parents are inpatient, inconsistent or demanding, their child is much more likely to display disruptive behaviour. In addition, a teachers’ use of praise can have a very positive effect on a child and even lessen the likelihood of bad behaviour occurring.

What can be concluded is that a variety of interventions can be helpful for children who have behavioural problems. Coaching and redesigning of strategies can be useful for parents who require more effective means of dealing with their child’s behaviour.

Calming techniques and an understanding of other people’s point of view can help a child feel more in control and open minded. NLP can empower de-motivated minds and techniques can be learnt to resolve conflicts with others.

“He has more faith in his abilities and stands up for himself in an argument. He also does more (i.e. homework) independently- it’s great!”

By Gemma Bailey
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