Thing Number One – you tell yourself you do not have enough of something, fill in the gap with whatever the something may be. Now that gap could be time, money – it could be support or intellect or skill. A very talented speaker said to an audience of six thousand people if you suddenly had to find an extra 10,000 pounds in the next two weeks, could you do it? Most of the audience said no or didn’t really respond. Then he asked “could you find it if not getting that money meant that you would die, or one of your children would die?” and of course the response was suddenly very different from that audience. So, it’s not the thing that fits in the gap of why you can’t do it, it’s the fact that you believe the excuse is true, so stop telling yourself this rubbish. A good NLP Coach will help you to get your mindset int he right place to that you can do this. We have NLP coaches located throughout Hertfordshire and North London who can assist you with this.
Your real truth is that you can do and be better than that. That same person once told me the difference between successful people and failures, is that successful people do not believe their own excuses. It’s not that they don’t have them, they just choose not to believe them.
So, thing Number Two that will stop you – you do not focus for long enough. You flip from one idea to the next without giving them enough time to grow and develop. In fact, in the movie The Secret there is a scene where there’s a little seed that’s just about to burst through the soil and they say something along the lines of “You give up right at the point where it’s about to come up through that soil”. This is a good metaphor. If you give up on your hopes and dreams because they didn’t reward you quickly enough you will find yourself consistently looking for the next best thing. I know people who do this but if you want it badly enough it is worth nurturing and waiting for.
A key skill from NLP coaching in Hertfordshire and north London is our ability to help you create well formed goals.
Number Three of the ‘7 things that stop you’ – you give your power to others. It surprises me that there are so many smart intelligent people in life who seem to have everything sorted but in one area of their life which is not causing them the happiness that they desire. For example, they may have a successful job, but be totally unfulfilled in their relationship and be reluctant to do anything about it in the hope that the other person will instead, hence giving your power to others. Giving your power to others and having them make decisions for you will ultimately prevent you from stretching and growing yourself. Failure to grow will hold you back from having what you really want. You are a powerful beautiful thing. Embrace that and start taking control of your life. All of it.
NLP is a great tool for self empowerment. Our coaches in Hertfordshire can help you realise that power.
Number Four of the ‘7 things that will stop you’ – you blame others. Again, we have something outside of yourself as the cause of what is stopping you from doing what you should, could and want to do with your life. It’s easy to justify other people as the reason why we are prevented from doing what we want to do. Be it parents from childhood, bank managers who won’t give us overdrafts or bosses that don’t listen. We can easily believe that they have some sort of magical influence on our lives that holds us back but you and I know the real truth is that we are here for just a fraction of time on this beautiful planet and your life is your own to do as you please with it. Now is the time to fully begin to live your life without letting others get in the way. Our Hertfordshire and North London NLP Coaches can help you develop the resilience needed to say ‘No’ whenever you feel others are diluting your will.
Number Five of the 7 things that will prevent you and stop you from living the life you want – you don’t believe it should be easy. You operate from the philosophy that life is hard, as such, that is the experience you have repeatedly create. There may be problems that stop you from getting what you want or from going where you want to go. These problems may appear to be very real but of course they are all made up. They’re totally fictional and they are made up of your perception of them and your fear of them is the thing that gives them energy and keeps them alive. When you say ‘whatever’ or ‘bring it on’ to your problems it causes those problems to begin to behave differently. If you can continuously do something differently, eventually it becomes easy. Perhaps you could continuously live your life differently until your perception shows you that life can be easy. It really can.
It begins to get easier with support too, which is why an NLP coach can be so valuable to you.
Number Six of our ‘7 things that will stop you’ – you lost your faith. This doesn’t mean religious faith, though it could, but knowing that you are loved cared for and that something greater than yourself is watching over you and guiding you in the right direction can make all the set backs a little easier to take and the rainy days a little easier to tolerate. You absolutely should believe in, if nothing else, your own ability to do in life what ever it is you want to do.
And last of all Number 7 you just don’t want it badly enough because if you did you would never give up.
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By Gemma Bailey